Is this article for men only?

Business Leader Post, July 20, 2012

Thomas D. Davidow, Ed.D.

Our self-esteem is rooted in accomplishment. That statement may or may not apply to women, but I know that it applies to men. The pay-back for drive, activity, energy and commitment is not, surprisingly, in the achievement of the goal. Billionaires and highly successful people from all disciplines keep working. Why is that? I suggest that it is the psychic reward they get from being involved in the process of achieving.

Freud tells us that work and play are different. Removing one’s self from the reward system of work is extremely difficult. However, sometimes it is necessary. (Selling the family business) In that case, there is an adjustment process for men that cannot be denied or avoided. Feelings of sadness, fear and anger may arise—the normal feelings associated with loss.

Nevertheless, my advice is not to say “yes” to any opportunity for a minimum of 6 to 9 months and a maximum of a year. It takes almost a full year to recover and to develop the clarity to choose what you would like to do next.